What I Hope For My Children Now That Same-Sex Marriage is Legal

I was so incredibly happy when I heard the news that gay marriage was legalized everywhere in America. It struck a chord on so many levels. I have lots of dear friends who are gay and are raising families, and this news means the world to them. Not only does it offer couples and families the rights that all Americans deserve, but it sets a precedent, and it lays the foundation for acceptance and healing (though we still have a long way to go).

More than anything, I thought about what the decision means for my children, and for the generation of children growing up now. Happy to share this essay I wrote about that, for Role Reboot.


I hope that someday no children will have to grow up living in fear of the enormous love their hearts hold.

Since becoming a parent, when anything big happens in the news—good or bad—I immediately think of how it will affect my kids. The news that the Supreme Court legalized same-sex marriage for all 50 states brought big, fat tears of joy to my eyes. I cried not only for the countless men and women who will finally have the rights and respect they deserve, but also for what it means for my children, and the whole generation of kids growing up now.

I remember all those years ago, when I was a senior in high school—practically a child myself—and my dear friend told me he was gay. We were sitting in his parked car, tears streaming down his face. But his were tears of fear and anguish. I was one of just a few kids at our school he was telling, and I was sworn to secrecy. What would happen if anyone at school found out? What about his parents? He took a drag on his cigarette. I wrapped my arms around him, wordless, scared for him, knowing all I could do was love him, and hope for the best.

I knew then and there that I would do the same for my children if they ever told me they were gay—I would hold them in my arms, and tell them I loved and accepted them. But back then, I wasn’t sure love from a few supporters was good enough for gay children, teenagers, women, and men. I was scared for my friend, and for anyone coming out then—professing their feelings, their love to a world that didn’t always love them back.

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3 thoughts on “What I Hope For My Children Now That Same-Sex Marriage is Legal

  1. Donia Papageorgiou

    Hi Dear Wendy, I just read your article on parenting your Strong willed child. What I sensed was the struggle we go through to know ourselves and our favourite others. I discovered Human Design. Absolutely amazing. Check out Karen Curry or Evelyn Levenson. It is an amazing tool to understand oneself and also ones children. We are all wired in certain ways. Some children for example cannot go to sleep at bedtime. No matter what. I was one of those children. if my parents had known this about me and how I am designed It would have saved everyone lots of pain struggle and heartache. Also, according to my Design type (I am a Manifestor but there are 4 types) it is better for me not to sleep in the same bed with another person. To this day, I am 48, I cannot fall asleep at ‘bedtime’ and I sleep better on my own although I do like to share my bed. HumanDesign is an amazing tool. I don’t know why I feel compelled to share this with you. I think your article touched something deep within-my always, misunderstood inner child . Thanks for your time, warm regards Donia


      1. Donia Papageorgiou

        Thank you! Hope you will find it as inspiring and liberating as I did. My best to you, Donia


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